It’s just super frustrating seeing people who are supposedly my brothers and sisters, who I’ve been there to the hilt, who know that my partner is struggling, who know that I’m terrified. We’ve gone through the science and racial and class inequalities together and they’ve voiced how they should mask a hundred times. And then they come to meet me IRL totally fucking unmasked, without even a fucking apology.
Well, if you’re “back to normal”, I’ll sit and watch you eat outside, but I’m not taking my mask off in front of you. I’ll wait till you finish your meal, and I’ll head home early. If I’ve complained about no masking two times already, you heard it enough, I’m not going to complain again.
Am I overreacting?
Edit: for those of griping that you’re not allowed to do COVID minimisation in this comm. These would be valid answer:
- Maybe your friend forgot
- Maybe your friend was tired
- Maybe your friend was hung over
- Your friend made a mistake but you should forgive him
- I’m not yet fully covid conscious, but I’m trying
- We can’t all be perfect. Hopefully they do better next time.
Not acceptable:
- Oh here’s a tidbit about masks that’s been disproven in the science literature 10x already
- Oh the chuds and libs aren’t masking, and I feel peer pressured
Masking is definitely a niche thing now, but dammit, it should be our niche. We should be proud of taking care of each other.
Of course, masks as a symbol of non-sanctioned solidarity will result in more public mask bans like here in NC, but defying shitty laws is cool and good
you are not overreacting at all. It is infuriating and I’ve even caught myself wondering if even having events with mandatory masking is too risky
No absolutely not. I think unless they’ve done something really egregious to you though, it’s not worth getting too angry about. We all know the amount of propaganda we’ve been subjected to regarding Covid, the absolutely massive push to sweep it under the rug. To some degree I think you can understand why they’re not masking anymore, even while understanding that it’s wrong and dangerous and unprincipled.
Obviously if they’ve been really egregious about not masking around you and disregarding your (or your partner’s) boundaries though that would be another thing, and a little more anger is justified.
Yeah I think the word you used, disappointment, is a good one. I’ve been having to come to terms with that in my own life, people who have not necessarily been horrible to me, but in whom I’m very disappointed and surprised honestly in their lack of principles. My relationship has changed with a lot of people, and honestly there are a ton of people in my life who I now feel like I can’t trust.
That classic parenting phrase - “I’m not mad, just disappointed” - is a good way to sum up how I’ve been feeling
Threads like this are a really great window into how fucked up western progressives really are about very basic and simple principles. you all want me to believe you’re going to do shit for a revolution when you think you’re invincible and constantly whining about putting a thing over your face when you go out? it would be incredible if it weren’t fucking us over all for the sake of a pint at flanigans or whatever other asinine garbage we’ve decided is worth throwing away the future. libs until proven otherwise now and forever.
Disability solidarity defines the left just as surely as Palestine solidarity or trans solidarity. Unchecked covid will make everyone disabled over time, and unchecked health chauvinism will make it easier to forget those who drop out of public life, whether by developing debilitating long covid conditions (acknowledged as such or not), or by adopting lonely precautions, or both.
Also masking makes it less simple for cops and cameras to ID you, and can be an accessible and immediate source of relief for trans people who want to conceal unwanted puberty effects on their face. The more people stubbornly mask, the more cover is offered to the most exposed and vulnerable, along multiple intersections.
When you wear a mask, you’re wearing communism. When you refuse to wear a mask, you’re wearing the emperor’s new clothes
