A lot of these right wing freaks wouldn’t be so sexist if they they talked to a woman irl once and while. Also politely asking someone out and then telling them exactly what you want probably beats the clusterfuck that is modern dating.
The first step is teaching them to want something realistic, informed by what they feel deep down, and not dehumanizing so they can actually “wear it on their sleeve” when approaching a woman rather than feeling like it’s a secret shame they have to insidiously spring on the woman at the moment her guard is down.
You are right But I believe talking to real women will help them have realistic expectations. Or real people in general The Internet is a very toxic place.
There’s nothing wrong with just making friendly conversation, but you should not ask out random service workers because they have to be polite to the customer and it puts them in a weird spot if some stranger just asks them on a date.
I had planned on doing this when I got out of the military, but Providence had it that I’d never have to try it out – I’d be engaged to Keturah just before my discharge. But I say to any young man having trouble finding a woman it’s absolutely worth a try.
“Well, no. I haven’t tried this myself. I am happily married. But you go and try this thing I made up in my head because it sounds romantic”
Eh. I mean, not the worst marriage practice by far.
Yeah, the part about specifically going to poor towns is suspect, but, like, is there anything more true to the idea of touching grass than to leave your house and talk to people in real life with the intention of meeting a serious romantic partner? Granted, I don’t endorse hitting on service workers while they’re on the job, but politely asking the IHOP waitress if she wants to grab a coffee later isn’t exactly sex tourism.
Normal people meet like this all the time and have normal relationships. This is 80% of the way to being extremely healthy and constructive advice, even if the other 20% came through the boomer filter.
Thing is, I don’t think anybody who reads this, which is from one of those right wing accounts harvesting grievances about modern women, is actually going to do this. This is just a nice little movie the reader can play in their head or a salve-daydream they escape into in moments of loneliness before returning to porn addiction, a hamster wheel job, or NEETdom.
That’s kind of the sad thing. This is obviously just engagement bait for reactionary boomers, but a lot of people would legitimately benefit from logging off and having a conversation with a stranger in real life instead of spending 12 hours a day alternating between arguing on the internet and watching porn. This is almost broken clock territory.
I don’t know if most normal people tell their waitress that they’re looking to marry her lol
Honestly I’d hate if someone asked me out while working, idk if this is good advice at all.
It’s pretty exploitative but certainly better than “passport bros.” I wouldn’t judge a lonely guy for choosing to do this over the apps though, as a last resort.
E: maybe exploitative isn’t the right word. But I would rather not use this method where the person you find is less likely to love you for who you are, instead they’re likely to prefer you to the other options that were immediately available. It’s only exploitative if you’re a wealthy guy who goes to a poor area to do this and take advantage of desperate women.
I figure we’re at a point where, in the US, marriage for purely economic reasons is on at least some people’s radars, especially if it’s a way to get out of a dying no horse town.
Yeah that or it becoming like some Asian countries where one parent in a married couple goes to the city for huge portions of the year to work as a nanny, etc. and send money back. Either could at least make it harder for people in those towns to believe the cities are always on fire and running amok with armed robbers.
PLOT TWIST: these guys all end up marrying brassy, chainsmoking older waitresses named Barb or Midge who say stuff like, “more java, hun?”
Finally, a passport bro solution for people on the no fly list for their 4chan posts.
