just wanted to let everyone know that i do read everything, react IRL, and upbear. my social anxiety and ADHD has crawled even into my posting/commenting online which i was immune to when younger. i was wild in early forums and chatrooms

also not sure how long is too long to reply. things move slower in the lemmyverse but i’m so afraid of a reply being too “stale”

whats everyone else think about reply/comment protocol real or imagined?

It’s good comradeship to agree with everything I say and upbear all my posts. Telling me I’m wrong or stinky is counterrevolutionary.

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you’re wrong and stinky

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I don’t think late replies are real. If the receiver isn’t interested in the topic anymore they can just delete it from their inbox. NBD.

I don’t reply to most comments because I don’t have anything of interest to add. I still appreciate them though.

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Engagement is engagement, as long as people like my posts then I am happy even if no one responds with a comment 😊

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wish we had a button that does a special upbear that lets you reveal who did it

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I have :upbeared: this post kind stranger

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I wonder what it be like if the record of who upbears posts were public…

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like the heart in yt comments section to show the OP liked a comment!

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maybe an :upbear: emote to complement the downbear emote. i’d thought we had one. the perfect emote for when you can’t find the perfect emote.

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I also feel this anxiety in other parts of my life too.

I try to reply to everyone and I’m afraid it makes me come off as intense or competitive (like I need to get in the last word) when I’m really just trying to say I heard and read what you said. Or I try to make it clear I’m not upset with something or ignoring them on purpose.

My parents didn’t pay much attention to me growing up, and I think that’s something that affects the way I interact with people. I don’t want people to feel like I’m ignoring them or that I don’t care, so I try to reply when I can.

On the other hand, that’s overwhelming, and honestly untenable. Otherwise, I would reply to my texts, emails, etc.

I don’t think many people are built for all the ways we communicate these days.

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wanted to add: a react emoji is cool and good way to reply in a conclusive and simple way but can’t always find a perfect fit

we do almost have enough to have a star trek next generation picogram language soon!!!

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What is Neurodivergence?

It’s ADHD, Autism, OCD, schizophrenia, anxiety, depression, bi-polar, aspd, etc etc etc etc

“neurologically atypical patterns of thought or behavior”

So, it’s very broad, if you feel like it describes you then it does as far as we’re concerned


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2.) always assume good faith when dealing with a fellow nd comrade especially due to lack of social awareness being a common symptom of neurodivergence

2.5) right to disengage is rigidly enforced. violations will get you purged from the comm. see rule 3 for explanation on appeals

3.) no talking over nd comrades about things you haven’t personally experienced as a neurotypical chapo, you will be purged. If you’re ND it is absolutely fine to give your own perspective if it conflicts with another’s, but do so with empathy and the intention to learn about each other, not prove who’s experience is valid. Appeal process is like appealing in user union but you dm the nd comrade you talked over with your appeal (so make it a good one) and then dm the mods with screenshot proof that you resolved it. fake screenies will get you banned from the site, we will confirm with the comrade you dm’d.

3.5) everyone has their own lived experiences, and to invalidate them is to post cringe. comments will be removed on a case by case basis depending on determined level of awareness and faith

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