My org has like 8 events on the calendar for this upcoming week and I’ll need to attend at least 2-3. The first one isn’t until tomorrow but seeing those updates just drained me of energy and now all I want to do is lay down and tune out the world.

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What really sucks is my org knows I’m autistic, they’ve been understanding of my difficulties in the past, but I can’t just unlearn the lessons of a lifetime of being belittled and dismissed any time I tried to assert needs that neurotypical people decided didn’t count.

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The worst is having an end of day appointment. I’m thinking about it all day so I don’t miss it and can’t get anything done.

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I suffer from this as well. Why isn’t there a word to describe this condition? I bet the Germans have a precise term for it.

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I feel like this concept would be incomprehensible for a German.

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Why isn’t there a word to describe this condition?

“Dread”

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always heard it referred to as “appointment mode”

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With the addition of a new member that has a wife and kids, the band has been starting practices at like 930 or 10PM from time to time. I hate it when we do that, feels like it throws off the WHOLE day.

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If I make plans in advance, they feel like obligations and I immediately want to flake. If I don’t make plans in advance, I get anxious and say no because I don’t have time to prepare mentally. The only way to get me to do anything is to hit the sweet spot right around 24 hours in advance, which gives me just the right amount of time to not feel either pressured or unprepared.

I don’t do a lot of things.

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This feels sane to me. I’ll maybe adopt the 24 hour thing, where applicable.

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My brain works very similarly.

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I don’t normally identify as ND but this rings so true to me.

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buddy you have no idea

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Yes constantly. It’s the worst feeling.

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