come chat and vibe and vent. hows the first week into black history month treating you? how are you celebrating/ learning? any cool black history info that you wish was more well known?
Been getting hit a bit harder by my feelings of loneliness lately. Especially after I went to a sending off party for someone from work. Had an expectation that at least one or two of the people I talk with the most would be there and none showed up. It was a bit awkward. Not that it was that bad, but just felt a bit isolated.
Also just feel like I’m kind of just stuck in a routine all the time. Going out for a walk and taking some pictures kind helps just because it makes me think about something other than work, but I can’t help but think about how so much of my life right now evolves around my workplace including what social interactions I have. And it finally just hit me while I was out on a walk yesterday that I just feel alone. Its not even like I live alone. I still live with my parents and brother, but I don’t really have anyone that I feel comfortable talking about life with right now.
Do you have any IRL friends currently?
Frankly, I would suggest looking around on Facebook or Instagram and looking for meet-up groups and clubs, but that’s what I’m doing (with good success, it seems).
I have couple that I still text on occasion. The biggest problem is distance. They both live further away now so it’s more difficult to find the time to hang out. I’m might just do what you suggested.
Joining a club is probably what got me through college. I got to meet people that I got along with that I otherwise probably wouldn’t have met.
Keep in mind that there’s also meetup.com in addition to Facebook and Instagram. Bookclubs.com also has that and the klerb app (which I got recently) does the same thing that bookclubs.com does.
Oh yeah, one more thing: if you know any place that sells TTRPGs or board games, they likely have clubs for that too and you can find a group there to play with and socialize with.
I guess another idea is to use the Nextdoor app (which is growing in some popularity, last I checked) to find other groups near you depending on your interest.
Yeah, it was amazing how easy it was, at least for the time being.
I think not going on Facebook or Instagram for ideological reasons was a bad move on my part.
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I’m getting better at talking about my experiences as a black person without shame. Or rather, I’m better seeing white discomfort and continuing with what I’m saying.
It’s realizing I’m not being the problem or trauma dumping or whatever. My experience is valid and just because someone else doesn’t understand that I need to consider more for my personal safety doesn’t make me a downer. I’m not the one who should feel bad when I bring up that something is racist.
It doesn’t feel like much to me, but I’m starting to realize it’s not me, it’s the white liberals in my life.
Talk about it whenever you want.
Nobody should stop you.
Edit: I mean, I’m supporting this of you, is what I’m trying to say.
Sorry if the original comment came off as rude; I mean that, as someone that is non-white or Black, you should definitely speak up whenever you want or need to as someone of your race and maybe give a perspective from that angle.
Oh yeah fuck their feelings tbh. These days I only hang with white people who aren’t fragile.
Wow another week passed by. I will have mango curry later :3. Plus I plan to workout today…took a break because I was sick.
is anyone is just so fucking done with the children of immigrants making fun of their parent? like theres a whole genre of content online of poc kids making deeply racist jokes bout their own parents. mocking their accents, complaining about their English, making jokes defending beating children, getting on fucking tv to defend these obvious racist jokes with. “im not making fun of blank, im mocking my parents who happen to be just lazy caricatures” and “how can i be racist aganist my own race?” while putting on modern day minstrel shows. or worst, irl talking shit about them right in front of them because they dont speak English. I hope that white approval was worth it scumbags.
That shit is so gross. I don’t want to feel too old, but the trend of posting embarrassing parent stuff was unthinkable to me as a teenager. It was more for fear of my own embarrassment or stigmatization, but this seems so much more callous.
It’s disturbing to see kids and young adults incentivized to use their families for content like this. And they don’t even see it as opening the door for people to reproduce the racist behavior on them. They aren’t going to stop and wonder if you have an accent or belief system. Folks will just walk up and say vile racist shit.
lmao
My parents never hit me growing up, and my best friend (who was white) was routinely cursed out and spanked by his mom when I was at his house
There’s also that classic vid where the white kid’s dad runs over all his Xbox games with a lawnmower
To be honest I have a hard time imagining most Indian or East Asian parents actually hitting their children or freaking out especially hard
There’s also that classic vid where the white kid’s dad runs over all his Xbox games with a lawnmower
That reminds me
If the kkkrakkas do it, it’s just a minority
If the POCs do it, that’s their cultural oddity…
Also, I’m in the same boat as you as well… my parents weren’t exactly soft but they weren’t strict about doing this activity and that…
There is a line between sharing and discussing the shared experiences of children of immigrants and being racist, and it is often crossed. It isn’t for me to police it for other groups. But there’s a difference between discussing the awkwardness of attending your parents immigration process as a translator, and doing minstrel bits about the way your parents say certain words.
When im in a racist accent competition and an asian-diaspora “comedian” enters
It started off innocent but, like most fun internet trends, quickly became self-hating and cruel. The videos I hate most are the ones that portray abuse as cultural traditions to be proud of. Chancla memes turned into weird poc feeling superior for being violently abused by their immigrant parents and/or having the media portray their cultures as inherently violent. I get so pissed off when they conflate white American culture with softness and overly doting families because (a) it’s actually super dysfunctional and not at all kind nor healthy, (b) abuse exists in every culture and © no parent of any group should be beating their kids.
