not sure if this is the right place to post.
she’s 13. me and my sister both mostly think it’s based, but her dad is gonna flip shit. also she needs to pay a fine and will have some sort of record i assume?
I want to support her, but i also want to maybe start bringing up opsec in some way regarding antics like that. She got caught by the doorbell bullshit, which aint good. it was also during the day, not wearing a mask, etc. just kinda careless…
and i wanna be like ‘the people who actively support the police are gonna be the first to weaponize them against you’.
we aren’t super close, and technically it’s supposed to be a ‘secret’, but is this worth bringing up somehow? should I let her just deal with it for now? she seems to have a “i don’t care, i did what i did” attitude, which seems on brand for a young teen. I don’t want to nag, but I also want to make sure she doesn’t put herself at unnecessary risk.
She’s super vulnerable and impressionable at that age, despite whatever front she puts up. Whatever support you give her will live on in her mind for yours to come. A message to your sibling, taking her side and offering support, would be very helpful.
thanks. I try to be as supportive as i can, but i also know your uncle isn’t really ‘cool’ when you’re that age. I wish we had a better relationship, so this was more natural, but still.
I wouldn’t stress being cool for her. She doesn’t need a friend now, she needs an adult, with all the power and wisdom that you have. I get that 13 y/o’s seem stand-off-ish and want to be left alone, but don’t take that to mean she doesn’t need grown-up assistance. When she’s old enough to voice things, she can then give gratitude.
Sorry to pedantic, but I’m literally a high school teacher.
Do what you think is best, but I think an email to your sibling would be helpful.
you’re right! I don’t need to be ‘cool’ but i also would like to actually have a conversation and talk, and not just be shrugged off.
me and my sister talked, and she seems in the right place about it for the most part, and assume it will be a thing that gets worked out in time.
Your job as an uncle is to support her cool endeavors and help her do them smart and safely.
I got in trouble for defacing a support our troops thing around that age. They made me write an apology letter so the first letter of each line spelled out “fuck you”