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Being trusted in a particular location does not depend on your feelings but on whether or not your behaviour demonstrates that you have earned that trust. Looking for boundaries - how much you can get away with - does not demonstrate you can be trusted, unless you frame it from the other person’s perspective, for example you could ask your mom if she’s comfortable for dates to pick you up from a few houses down the road, and if not how far out you should go. This lets her set the boundary she’s comfortable with and you can gain trust by respecting that boundary and not attempting to push it - in fact go the other way and add 25 yards to it.
Your rights as an adult are that you now get to make your own rules and everyone else has to respect them. But the flipside of that is that you also have to respect everyone else’s rules, especially those of a homeowner.
That homeowner might have rules about whether or not you can wear shoes inside, or whether you can smoke inside, etc. When you own your own place you get to make rules like this yourself, and you will be within your rights to expect your visitors, tenants and offspring to abide by them.
If for example you make a rule that says “Don’t tell strangers my address” then you would be right to expect your children to abide by that rule.
This is your mom’s rule and you have to abide by it. Tell your dates to pick you up and drop you off somewhere nearby without giving away your home address, and when you want to invite them home you need your mom’s agreement first, because it’s her house and her rules.
BTW the “I want it my way!” attitude is that of a kid not an adult. Grown-ups make agreements and stick to them. If you want different rules you can try to negotiate with her, but you have to accept if she won’t change them. There are good reasons for not letting unknown people know your address.
Repeat after me: Political Opponents Are Not Enemies.
What unites us is greater than what divides us. You think the country should be run this way, I think it should be run that way. That doesn’t make me an idiot or your enemy. It doesn’t mean I hate you. Your views are a result of your history, mine a result of mine. Views can change if presented with a compelling and respectful argument. But if you tell me I’m stupid for supporting a particular policy, that isn’t going to change me; it just makes me think you’re resorting to ad hominem because you can’t construct a coherent explanation.
Here in the UK we just had elections. My wife voted one way, I voted another. It hasn’t made the slightest difference to our marriage.
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Edit: What do you mean you haven’t got a clue what I’m talking about?
Has homosexuality been redefined?
I thought huddling together for warmth in cold weather was a survival technique: a method for staying alive, rather than counting as a sex act.
And two males bringing up an orphaned child seems like a jolly nice thing to do for the child and the community. If an orphanage is staffed by one sex, does that make the whole place a massive L/G orgy even if nobody is having sex with anyone else?