WalrusDragonOnABike [they/them]

Wanting certain genitals and disliking the ones you have seems normal to me. As long as you aren’t gatekeeping others by their genitals or what genitals they want or plan to keep, there’s no problem imo.

That’s how my brother met his previous BF. Not really sure how they started hanging out outside of said coffee shop (might have been invited to some sort of party that included other coworkers and stuff?).

down with cis

Wish masking was still common. Or at least people didn’t shame others for wearing them.

You’d think that’s the overwhelming, but it doesn’t seem to be the case.

I didn’t consider I might not be cis until my late-20s personally. I only realized after I started questioning that I had signs and was totally oblivious to them before. I think some people legitimately know early. But I think there’s pressure to conform to that narrative when making cis-facing media because it seems to make a stronger case to cis people that its something innate and unchangeable.

For me, one of the big reasons I never seriously consider I might not be cis is because when I first learned being trans was an option (late high school, and I didn’t understand what transitioning entailed at all), I just assumed I was cis since I didn’t always know I wasn’t (even though I didn’t even know that was an option).

Yeah. I’m fine with either way of framing. Some mean dysphoria and euphoria to only refer to extreme negative and positive feelings respectfully. Others basically use dysphoria much more broadly.

I think the problem with the dysphoria framing comes from listener and speaker using different definitions. When you say things like “gender requires dysphoria,” many eggs are going to see that and assume you mean the my strict definition of dysphoria, which they might not experience. Or even are experiencing it, but since they don’t know anything else don’t realize it is dysphoria.

There’s some common misconceptions. I’d say the “always knew” narrative is also really pushed, but the reality is many of us don’t realize until adulthood. Some don’t know until after they’re past middle-aged.

If I was given the reins at character creation, I would have chosen to be a woman.

You do have the reins. Its just not as quick and easy as it is in video games.

Of the cis people I know well enough to know what they’d choose (that’s really only 3 people), they’d all choose a guy without a doubt (all 3 are amab). Two of them would go for fairly stereotypical masc traits, one would go for a twink build, but still confidently wants to still be a guy.

At least you aren’t in Texas.

But I am. Just SE instead of N. So, usually hotter and more humid. The relatively mild summer here + the heat waves in the west have sorta negated that tendency this summer though I think?