What’re you into, what’re you looking forward to, what’re you happy about?
Please
I am feeling terribly self-harmy in advance of my birthday next week
I got to the point of making a pros and cons chart
give me something to be vicariously happy about or something to look forward to, please
@FourteenEyes@hexbear.net please come tell me your relationship is going swimmingly
@FearsomeJoeandmac@hexbear.net please tell me about the trash you’re eating this evening or ask me a ridiculous question
@ashinadash@hexbear.net & @magi@hexbear.net please tell me something cute about your relationship
@Dirt_Owl@hexbear.net please tell me anything, everything you post is great
@ReadFanon@hexbear.net please lecture me about how there’s better ways to deal with this or literally anything, I am delighted by your discourse on everything
@HarryLime@hexbear.net please tell me some wolf facts or something
I’m too tapped to continue this roll call, which could definitely go on forever
Hi!! We just spent an hour rearranging our bedroom hifi and sweating it out together More generally I like that we discovered together that we have autism, because I ended up lookin into it and self-dx’ing and then she did too, which was rad. I also really appreciate that she and I are of different generations, so we often have different, complimentary views and experiences
Also she introduced me to hexbear. Wifey is much better at technology than I am tbh
My husband and I figured out we have autism together, too. ❤️ suddenly it all made sense why we felt so much safer with each other than most of the other people in our social circle and had such an instant rapport. Our first date was supposed to be a very normal 2-3 hours but instead lasted 36. 😂🥰
I also really appreciate that she and I are of different generations, so we often have different, complimentary views and experiences
I bet you two have the best conversations!! 😍🥰
I have often admired the knowledge you demonstrate in your comments /c/technology etc, so she sounds impressive. Isn’t competence hot??? 😂❤️ mine is a mechanical genius, and it is still a sexy marvel every time he magically fixes a thing someone brought to him as dead junk. I’ve been watching it happen for 20 years, and it’s still amazing.
I’m so glad she found Hexbear and brought you with her. You are a delight. ❤️ thank you very, very much.
DISCOVERING UR AUTISM W/SOMEONE U LOOOOVE
lmao 36 hour date, wildin… We do in fact have pretty good chats 24/7 though It’s rad that she’s good at computers, but while I should be in programming socks I got the Bad At Math autism, alas…
Damn, the mechanical husband! I have an affection for mechanical stuff but am too weak and busted to do it. I think you have to be not chronically ill, and also jacked with oily calloused hands, right? Congrats on 20 years together though, another itsb banger ✨
Same, yw and I hope you’re doin a little better I know you said to me before that if your inbox blew up you’d just quit, hope you’re managing that too, lol
Ever since meeting each other we have speken almost 24/7 like constamtly talking to one another without a break lol but we had been looking for a more welcoming place since there had been too many libs or spaces with too much hostility for either of ua and I’m glad I found hexbear ^^ She is the nicest person I’ve ever known, and my best friend. We are very similar but not the sane.
I’m very glad to see you doing better
Pulled up to taco bell just in time apparently. I’m getting one of those cheese it crunch wrap supremes.
What’s up?
I’m 34. No.
If it’s greasy and unhealthy, unfortunately I generally like it though
I have a bit of a dad bod and this crap has probably shaved 5 years off of my life, but it was so worth it.
Here’s a couple of photos of some emus I encountered once upon a time. I was in a vehicle and they kinda dashed by fairly quickly so I didn’t get a chance to take some really good shots but it was neat to see them in the wild.
Were they doing the fun dances etc or just cruising by?
These pictures are gorgeous, the landscape in the background is incredible
I found a YouTube link in your comment. Here are links to the same video on alternative frontends that protect your privacy:
I like thinking about my birthdays as being anniversaries of my survival. I’m not sure if it’s going to be suitable for your situation but for me instead of thinking back to my childhood or my shitty family, I like framing it as being a yearly marker where I’ve succeeded despite the odds.
This feels safer and more comfortable for me because it allows me to acknowledge hardships that I’ve faced and I don’t feel compelled to feel enthusiastic or to celebrate things that don’t really resonate with me. I can be like “Fuck yeah, I worked hard at this and I made it through another one”. This also has the upshot of taking the pressure off of me from feeling the pressure to celebrate it with others because my survival is a very personal affair and I wouldn’t feel inclined inclined to invite other people to join in this because it’s not about them and it’s not for them. Although this also allows room for change too because I am able to welcome people into this experience of celebrating my survival, if I choose to.
There are things to hold out for. The world is changing very rapidly these days and the advances in medicine are pretty astonishing. I completely understand what it’s like to question whether it’s worth continuing on if things are going to remain as they are right now but try to allow space for the fact that choosing to continue means that you are allowing for the opportunity for things to improve, and that’s truly invaluable. I know that it it probably doesn’t feel like it’s true but I genuinely mean it when I say that it is.
I also want to mention that a typical person tends to underestimate themselves. A person who struggles with serious challenges in their lives and especially in their mental health tends to underestimate themselves even more. You are stronger, more intelligent, more valued, and more resourceful than that part of you which wants to convince you otherwise.
In other news, a little while back I made a post about how anticapitalist and socialist discourse has become super normalised in the media and I keep on coming across random, basically apolitical content where people shit on capitalism openly and directly. I’ve even seen the milquetoast progressive-ish left which is very hostile to radical politics engaging with concepts and symbolism of the radical left and I think that’s because they do not feel comfortable in ignoring it any longer. The anti-landlord discourse has also kicked up massively in the past couple of years especially, at least in my corner of media consumption and it has already become completely normalised. People who aren’t diehard communists will do things like mention Mao in comments sections when landlords get discussed lol. I used to feel like the fringe lunatic ranting and raving about radical stuff in most mainstream corners of social media. These days I routinely come across ideas and comments where I simply agree with no notes to add and often there will be comments that surprise me in how openly radical they are.
Also I’m putting a freshwater shrimp tank together for the first time in my life. It’s been a bit delayed due to a period of worsened mental health for me and being broke/putting too much money towards causes but soon enough I’m going to have an aquarium for the first time in my life and I’ll have some little critters doing their thing in the tank. Not that exact type of shrimp but something similar. I’m looking forward to trying my hand at doing some aquascaping and seeing how I go with setting up the aquarium, and I’m excited share some pics of what I put together. I hope I’ll be able to show you the completed project sometime soon.
Anyway, I hope that things go smoothly for you. Of course in the long term but especially in the next week or so.
As much as I can love a person I’ve only interacted with on an Internet forum, I love you. I don’t even know what else to say right now in reply to this - I’ll read it again in the morning and maybe be able to be more cogent and say something better - but this was everything I wanted in a response when I made this post, and I just don’t even have the words to express how much it means to me that you were able to give me the thing I needed but couldn’t perfectly articulate a request for. I have needed someone to do that my whole life.
😭❤️
“thank you” doesn’t even begin to cover it
I’m so glad that my comment was what you needed. I was trying to muster something good and I wasn’t sure if it was going to hit the mark for you so it’s nice to get the positive feedback.
I hope you’re doing well and that things have been going more smoothly than you predicted. I really appreciate the contributions you make to this site and the culture here, it makes it a welcoming place even for oddball characters like me who never feel at home anywhere.
I found a YouTube link in your comment. Here are links to the same video on alternative frontends that protect your privacy:
It is. We’re taking the hiccups in stride and trying hard to communicate with each other. I bought her a silver coin pendant which has the vegvisir on one side and aegishjalmur on the other, and plan on giving it to her when we go to the renn faire in a few weeks. The more we learn about each other the more we like each other. She has me watching romcom animes (ToraDora right now) and I’ve been inflicting my weird gamer youtubers on her like Ross Scott and Civvie11. We like each other a lot, and even told each other “I love you” for the first time recently in the nerdiest way possible: referencing the “would you love me if I was a worm” meme in relation to Dune.
I really love her. I’m glad we met.
Pro: I love you and the world is a better place with you in it, even if birthdays are… a mixed bag so to say
I mean, hell, my partners car popped a tire so we had to borrow her mom’s car and it didn’t have A/C, so we had to run our errands in 90°F+ heat and couldn’t even enjoy our leisure time because we were dying from getting baked
And my birthday cake melted in the heat too, but we salvaged it
Suffice to say, there’s ups and downs and believe me, sometimes those downs are downs
You are a beautiful spark in the darkness, don’t let it snuff you out
i got mint, so i either will make cookies with ginger and min or try it with chili pepper (for science). Also its great in tea
I’ve had mint tea and mint chocolate cookies, but ginger and mint cookies?! Maybe with chili pepper?? 🤯 I would love to know more. What texture are you going for? Are you working from a recipe or inspired genius?
Thank you for telling me about your intriguing cookie project ❤️ would you please post about them when you make them this weekend?
Oh, no , chili with mint is a separate thingie, I just wanted to test how hot and cold food feels together.
Figure chili would be too weird in a cookie. Although black pepper might work
I’ll keep you updated
Nah usual ginger cookies, but because I have a small oven, I have to bake in 3 goes, so I try some stuff with them
your experiments sound fun, I’m excited to see what happens this weekend – thank you!!
Helped a ton of trans people this week with resources, love seeing the relief in people’s eyes when I help them out
just the mental image of your connection with those people in that moment is deeply inspiring and beautiful, I love that feeling of having actually helped ❤️
thank you, I needed this
Its important to stick around so you can help others out! Also helps when you’re feeling bad to remember the good things you’ve done
remember the good things you’ve done
This is a really good idea but hard for me because I see all the flaws in everything I’ve done. Maybe I should get someone to help me with it and bonk me on the head with a pillow every time I try to nitpick. 😂❤️
Thank you. You are awesome, and I appreciate your kindness and care very much.
I’m hoping your birthday is well and you post more doggo and chicken pics!
