Many times I’m having a completely unrelated dream session, then suddenly I sense that I’m about to wake up, so I just quickly manifest sex to the awkward surprise and staring of the dream cast present at the scene. But this is a paradox because it makes the dream end even faster because everything is rushed and sloppy and the manifested faces aren’t even as detailed as the natural dream.
The weird thing is that I’m aware of my dream state yet the thought of “let’s finish the adventure instead of having sex” doesn’t enter my mind.
Instead of trying to stay asleep, try staying with the feeling tone of the original dream. If the dream is one of happiness and joy, lean into that feeling rather than the ‘story line’. If it’s of sadness and loss, same.
I kept a dream journal daily for over a year. Remembering the feeling tone was the best way to both fall back asleep, and recall the details of the dream to write everything down when I was ready to get up.
make peace with the fact your brain is a screenwriter with the sensibilities of a teenager
I have noticed that any lucid dream I’ve ever had just sort of phases into being awake with no real conclusion to the events of the dream. Lucidity I think only occurs on the edge of wakefulness so waking up is usually the conclusion before whatever “story” that was occurring can reach anything satisfactory.
With that said I only very rarely have lucid dreams.
Going to xth the chorus of posts saying ‘omg masturbate’, that whole antifap shit is another method to control people using bourgeois morality. If you get rid of that urge before you won’t be so thirsty in your dreams.
Anyway, like RL you have varying degrees of awareness and ability to act on autonomy in a LD, so don’t feel too bad when you sleep into a habit. It helps to have a list of non sexy things to do when you LD and incubate those before bed.
Big spoiler for LDs, expectation is the law of dreams, you expect sex to mess up stability it will, a very common one is people thinking merely being excited about LDing will interfere with the LD. Even larger spoiler, no it won’t, manage your expectations and it will lead to better control. A more material hack is rubbing your hands or spinning helps with control, why, something about proprioception and pattern familiarity-expectation if I had to guess. If you ever figure out how to feel that you’re lying down sensation that makes a good reality check, one doesn’t walk around life with the sensations/pressures of lying on a bed. Makes me think of a video game glitch.
