it was, of course, the classic situation:
“All I need is for you to bring your truck! I’ll have everything ready when you get here!”
😂 this has never once been true in two decades of helping people move, so when I volunteer to help “just move the mattress and table” I’m ready to pack shit up and clean too
really worried about this friend tbqh, kinda got some hints that there are very serious substance abuse issues happening
idk what to do except just try to be there when he needs us and keep trying to proactively check on him
Sadly that’s all you really can do is be an available friend.
Last time I helped a friend move he was unconscious on his floor from a seizure, and definitely nothing had been packed lol. I was so unsettled (and made it clear to him he should’ve informed me about his health issues), and had him chill out while I called more friends and gave them the real lowdown so we could actually band together and help him out.
But yeah, they’re never ready lol.
Omg!! Idk what I would have done in that situation, I don’t have many mutuals with him anymore, and I was helping him solo because my husband’s got a herniated disc. Beg his neighbors for help, I guess.
When you move, or when you end up in the hospital - that’s when you find out who your actual friends are, and boy howdy did you come through! Hope your friend treasures you the way he should ❤️
With everyone in my family, it’s been letting them know they have love and support until they are ready to make the change for themselves. Now my uncle is finally doing better and is grateful we stuck by him during his hard times (even if it was tough love at times.) He’s lucky to have a friend as good as you!
Thank you ❤️ I wish we could get him to live with us, he and my husband are super close, and I think they kinda need each other right now. He’s way too proud for any kind of charity though - he will barely let me buy him a drink for his birthday - and idk how to get him to see the offer as anything but that.
