It doesn’t bother me at all. I made a comment, someone replied, there is no need at all to continue the discussion unless I want to.

On here, replies and reactions make me excited. Generally speaking we’re all comrades of some degree here. On a cesspool like I often get dread over the chuds who could potentially harass me

I kinda felt this way when I used reddit.

Less so on Lemmy, and pretty much never on Hexbear.

Maybe on a messaging platform with IRL people, but never on somewhere like Lemmy. If anything, I really enjoy seeing that number go up! 59 unreads right now (I never check the box, the only way they go is replies).

If I’ve posted once in a day, and it’s gone against the grain in a particularly emotive topic discussion - then yeah I can’t say I’ve not said “oh here we fucking go” when I’ve seen the little badge with a number on it that’s not 1, because that’s usually when I’ve posted a YouTube link and the bot picks it up.

In fairness, 70% of it is a valid dissenting opinion to my own and I’ve got the opportunity to learn from someone else’s view, even if I’m still not convinced.

29% of the negative comments are just fannies just picking up a point which isn’t entirely clear and then interprets it in a way that’s logically and factually disingenuous to prove some sort of point, and I can count on one hand in the last thirty years or so the number of times that I’ve rattled someone’s cage to the point where they feel the need to PM me death threats or offer physical violence - by that point I’ve already figured out that they’re either deeply hurting and it’s manifesting itself in that way, or they’re deeply unwell and it’s well outside my skillset to help.

Lemmy overall is much more open to debate than Reddit, and the downvote button is used less of a “disagree” or “fuck you” button than it was on the latter site.