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Taking care of a persons needs is always priority #1, but at times, said person is unfit to handle money in a way that reliably alleviates those needs.
this has been on my mind a lot but I don’t think there’s really a good way to articulate my thoughts or a good solution for it, it’s just hard for me to wrap my head around someone posting
spoiler because I'm not trying to call out a specific person but I mean, it's kind of a specific instance and might be recognized
about getting like literally two months’ worth of my wages as a donation and then asking for more money a week later, like
I guess I feel a mix of jealousy, disbelief, and just like loss by proxy that this mana from heaven seemed to just disappear without benefit lasting even longer than a week
but i’m going to shut up about it because I’m not trying to be an asshole, it’s just like, idk, really wack to me that that happened
I’ve given people money through here from time to time, and this definitely made me less likely to do so in the future
Absolutely, the flippancy some users have with our comrades’ hard work is really disappointing. To say that $4k is some miniscule amount of money, or being like “actually I spent hundreds of dollars on doordash ” wtf
I don’t think anyone is genuinely thinking or saying that in a smug tone (except tbf maybe this specific incident because it appears they’re also a bigot and possibly a scammer). Anyone spending hundreds on DoorDash because they actually want to, and not as some sort of weird scammer power play, is probably either not thinking through their financial decisions entirely or has some other reason to do so that isn’t malicious or even purposely dismissive of the people that donated to them.
I don’t think you should pretend it’s only “kind of” a specific incident. We literally all know who you mean and saying you’re going to shut up about it and then posting it anyhow doesn’t really change what you’ve said. Not that you shouldn’t have said anything, clearly you aren’t the only one to feel off about it, but don’t pretend it can be anonymized, it’s just subtweeting.
I don’t know what, if anything, should be done, but I also don’t see how a rule that didn’t exist when that happened is a factor.
This comm is ultimately 95% just charity for people in our little online community. I still think that’s a good thing on the whole, but I think we all would prefer if it could be a more structured form of aid, but it can’t unless people organize a structure (and mods allow it ig).
idk I just tried to do what I could to semi anonymize it while still gripe about it and give an opportunity for someone to not read about it, idk what else I coulda done other than say nothing :/
I don’t know what, if anything, should be done, but I also don’t see how a rule that didn’t exist when that happened is a factor.
yeah I wasn’t trying to say whatever rule change happened was a factor, I just thought to mention it because of the part I quoted from the OP because idk when else, if ever, it’d be appropriate to mention. I don’t want to make a post about it y’know
This comm is ultimately 95% just charity for people in our little online community. I still think that’s a good thing on the whole, but I think we all would prefer if it could be a more structured form of aid
I mean I agree, this place is a truly bright light in an otherwise bleak present, and although I’m not in a position to really help out others I am so grateful to see the help that’s been given
I just really wish in this case that money could have gotten this person into a better situation for at least a month or two
I just really wish in this case that money could have gotten this person into a better situation for at least a month or two
Yeah, I’m sure they wished for that too. Idk what griping does to help them or anyone else is all, besides make them feel bad. A one time cash infusion is good but its not enough to overhaul a life, to overcome all the barriers put in front of a person. I don’t really have a point here I guess.
Edit: EelBolshevism put it better above.
If you needed that money, you are free to ask for support as well. If you don’t need it, then why do you care where it went? its not your money nor are you seeking similar donations. Straight up if I became homeless I’d be fucked. I’d probably just die. I have like every leg up in the world but I still can’t kick any of my bad habits even when they’re self destructive. If I got an influx of money I’d 100% spend it on fast food or something. And people would judge the fuck out of me for it. I do more indulgent shit than that now, but nobody judges me because I didn’t have to beg for that money, I work a job. But I don’t deserve this any more than anyone else, I’m stuck in the same mental rut but with different life circumstances. And so unless/until there’s a program that’s going to care for homeless people outside of capitalism, giving them shit is a standby to keep them afloat at least, and if they are lucky, maybe a leg up and out (but that can’t be an expectation, they have to be ready to change and its pretty hard to get your shit together when you don’t have reliable food and shelter)