Sandinband [any, comrade/them]

Do you have any advice on when that time is? I’ve been ghosted before and it really hurt and I don’t want him to wonder why I’m not talking to him anymore.

Kinda a lot of reasons, this ended up turning into a rant so feel free to not pay attention to this lol.

They’re pretty racist, I hated being Asian when I was in high school because I was adopted and raised by racist white people and tolerated his jokes then because I had low self esteem. I don’t hate my race anymore and I realize how fucked up that was and all the shit he says about people who aren’t straight and white like him.

I used to date this shitty guy and when I was thinking about breaking up with him, my friend told me that I should stay with him because I couldn’t do better appearance wise :/

He was really weird about me being bi and would get mad and not talk to me if I wouldn’t rate his girlfriends even though I told him it made me uncomfortable.

When we graduated high school he didn’t talk to me much and told me later it was because he was trying to distance himself from all the people he knew then and then for a while only talked to me when he was having mental health issues.

After a really traumatic experience for me I had to comfort him because he was upset that if he got into a fight with his mom he wouldn’t be able to stay at my house as a result.

Honestly writing this made me feel better about the decision to cut him off. I still wish I could be straight up with him but maybe I can do that at a later date when he’s more mature or something :/

Edit: I didn’t know you had to hit enter twice to make the paragraph spacing

It’s weird because I don’t feel that close to him but I do know that I’ve been there for his darker moments. I think he relied on me for like venting but we actually didn’t hang out that much and he’d never invite me out with his friends. I feel bad about him not having someone to lean on but sometimes it felt like that’s all he wanted me around for and I embarrassed him otherwise.

Would I be wrong if they did try something and I knew it was a possibility that they would and I did nothing to prevent it?

I know I’d feel responsible and the possibility of living with the guilt terrifies me.

It probably wasn’t healthy. I was just happy to have friends at that point and ended up with a lot of shitty relationships as a result and navigating them now is difficult

Yeah reading the replies made me realize that this is a bigger issue than him just being a bad friend. I think I’ll still feel a little bad for a while or maybe ever but I guess ghosting is the best option for a shitty situation :/

Thank you for making me feel like my feelings are valid, comrade <3

I just looked up symptoms of npd and some of them did match how he acted :/

I’ll try to remind myself of the all the shitty things he did and how it affected me when I think of reaching out to him.

Thank you for the advice <3

I’m really sorry that happened to you, I hope things are better for you now <3

My mom goes on homophobic rants pretty often and I’m already her least favorite :/

I think I’ll keep that I’m bi from anyone in my family until I move out.